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[分享]10 Things to Do Even if They Judge You

10 Things to Do Even if They Judge You
 Things to Do Even if They Judge You

What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you?

Truth be told, no one has the right to judge you. People may have heard

your stories, but they can’t feel what you are going through; they

aren’t living YOUR life. So forget what they say about you. Focus on

how you feel about yourself, and do what you know in your heart is

right.

Here are ten things to do even if others judge you for it:

1. Take care of yourself. – Your relationship with yourself is the

closest and most important relationship you will ever have. If you don

’t take good care of yourself, then you can’t take good care of

others either; which is why taking care of yourself is the best selfish

thing you can do. Read The_mastery of Love.

2. Do what you know is right, for YOU. – Don’t be scared to walk

alone, and don’t be scared to like it. Don’t let anyone’s ignorance,

drama, or negativity stop you from being the best you can be. Keep

doing what you know in your heart is right, for you. Because when you

are totally at peace within yourself, nothing can shake you.

3. Follow your own unique path. – Every new day is a chance to change

your life. Work on making life all that you want it to be. Work hard

for what you believe, and keep your dreams big and your worries small.

You never need to carry more than you can hold; just take it one day at

a time. And while you’re out there making decisions instead of

excuses, learning new things, and getting closer and closer to your

goals, know that there are others out there, like me, who admire your

efforts and are striving for greatness too.

4. Lock yourself away from the world and work on your goals. – Dream

big dreams, but realize that short term, realistic goals are the key to

success. Success is directly connected with daily action. The way we

spend our time defines who we are. Successful people keep moving, by

doing small things every day that bring them a couple steps closer to

their dream. They make mistakes along the way, but they don’t quit –

they learn and press on. Read Getting Things Done.

5. Adjust your goals and dreams as life changes. – A great deal of

pain in life comes from having a specific dream that you’ve fallen in

love with, and when it doesn’t work out exactly as planned, you become

angry that you now have to pursue a different path. If you want to tame

your inner demons and make the most of life, you must not become

rigidly attached to just one specific dream, and remain open to there

being an even better, equally as happy path ahead. Life is

unpredictable, but it provides plenty of opportunities to make dreams

come true. Just don’t forget that sometimes taking a positive step

forward requires you to slightly adjust your dreams, or plan new ones

– it’s OK to change your mind or have more than one dream.

6. Forgive those who have wronged you. – Forgiveness is a gift you

give yourself. Forgiveness is an attribute of the strong and wise.

Forgiveness allows you to focus on the future without combating the

past. To understand the potential of everything going forward is to

forgive everything already behind you. Without forgiveness, wounds can

never be healed, and moving on can never be accomplished. What happened

in the past is just one chapter. Don’t close the book, just turn the

page.

7. Show everyone your love and kindness. – If you are reserving your

love only for those who you have decided are worthy of it – all

strangers excluded – it may come as a surprise to learn that this is

not love at all, it is called judgment. Judgment is selective, love is

all embracing. Just as the sunlight and the wind do not discriminate,

true love does not make any such distinctions either. Love and kindness

is a way of living. Where there is love, there is no judgment. Where

there is judgment, there is no love. Read The 5 Love Languages.

8. Stand up for others, even if it’s the unpopular thing to do. –

Sometimes you will say something really small and simple, but it will

fit right into an empty space in someone’s heart. Dare to reach into

the darkness, to pull someone else into the light. Remember, strong

people stand up for themselves, but stronger people stand up for others

too, and lend a hand when they’re able.

9. Fight through your failures. – When you are feeling down or dealing

with failure, don’t be ashamed. There’s nothing to be ashamed of. You

are going through a difficult time, and you are still pushing forward.

That’s something to be proud of – that you are fighting through it

and slowly rising above it. Let everyone know that today you are a lot

stronger than you were yesterday, and you will be.

10. Keep your head held high and keep on smiling. – Every day of your

life is a page of your history. The only time you run out of chances is

when you stop taking them. Don’t cry over the past, cry to get over

the past. Don’t smile to hide the pain, smile to heal the pain. Don’t

think of all the sadness in the world, think of all the beauty that

still remains around you.


即使别人品头论足,也要去做的十件事


如果你知道没人品头论足的时候,做法是否会不一样呢?

    说真的,没人有权利对你说三道四。人们可能听说过你的事情,但他们并没

有切身体会;他们又没过着 你的 生活。所以别理会他人唧唧歪歪。专注自己的

感受,并且去做你内心认为是正确的事情。

    即使别人品头论足,你也一定要去做以下十件事情:

    1、照顾好自己。 ——在所有的关系中,每个人和自我的关系是最紧密的,

也是最重要的。如果你不能照顾好自己,那么也就无法照顾好别人;所以,各种

自私行为中,照顾好自己是最好的一桩事情。读读《掌握爱》这本书吧。

    2、为自己,做你认为正确的事情。 ——别害怕孤身上路;而且,如果喜欢

独自行走,也不要觉得这个念头可怕。别让旁人的无知愚昧、大惊小怪或者消极

态度阻挡了你的脚步,让你不能做最好的自己。内心认定正确的事情,就坚持去

做,只为 你自己 。因为,当你和自我处于完全和谐的状态时,就没人可以动摇

你了。

    3、走自己独特的道路。 ——每天都是改变生活的机会。努力经营,往渴望

的生活方向前进。为自己相信的事情,艰苦奋斗;心怀远大,藐视忧虑。量力而

行,不用超负荷;只要每天都有进步。还有,在没有做之前,你要决定是否去做

,而不是找借口,并且要学习新知识,越来越接近自己的目标;而且,你会知道

还有些旁人,象我一样,佩服你的努力,而且,我们都是追求卓越的同路人。

    4、远离喧嚣,努力向着目标前进 ——梦想需远大,但要知道短期的、现实

可行的目标才是成功的关键。成功与日常行为直接相关。如何支配时间决定了我

们是怎样的人。日常的点点滴滴,日积月累,逐渐向着梦想靠拢,成功人士通过

这么做,一直保持前进。一路上,他们也会犯错,但他们不放弃——他们吸取教

训,坚持下来。读读《去做事》这本书。

    5、当生活改变时,调整目标和梦想。 ——人生很多不如意来自你真心喜爱

某一梦想,但事与愿违,于是人变得怨天尤人了,这个时候,你得寻找另外一条

路了。如果要想驯服心中的恶魔,并且发挥生命的最大价值,那么,千万别执迷

不悟于某一特定的梦想;当前方有一条更好的、让人同样幸福的道路时,要保持

开放的心态。生活无常,但它还是给实现梦想提供了很多机会。只是别忘记:有

时候,迈出积极的一步,需要你略微调整梦想,或者筹划新的梦想——改主意或

者有了更多的梦想,这些都是正常的。

    6、原谅那些不曾善待你的人。 ——原谅别人是你送给自己的一份礼物。坚

强和明智的人才有资格去原谅。原谅让你将注意力集中到未来,而不是与往事纠

缠。原谅所有的往事,才能理解未来的潜力。没有原谅,伤口永远无法愈合,那

么就无法前进。无论过去发生过什么,都只是人生的章节。不要合上书,只要翻

过那一页。

    7、给予别人爱心和善意。 ——爱心如果只给那些你认为值得的人,而排除

了所有的陌生人,那么这就不是爱心,这叫私心;得出这样的结论,或许会令人

意外吧。私心挑三拣四,爱心拥抱一切。就象阳光和风对众生一视同仁,真正的

爱心也不分畛域。爱心和善意是一种生活方式。有爱心的地方,私心消弭无踪。

私心出没的地方,爱心无处藏身。读读《五种爱的语言》这本书吧。

    8、即使不招人待见,也要支持他人。 ——有时候,你真的只用说简单的只

言片语,却能触动别人空洞的心灵。鼓起勇气去触摸黑暗吧,将他人拉进阳光里

。记住,强大的人坚持自我;但更强大的人也会为别人挺身而出,当有能力的时

候,他们会对别人施以援手。

    9、从失败中,杀出一条路来。 ——当觉得走下坡路了,或者面临失败,不

要觉得羞愧。没什么好羞愧的。你正处在艰难时期,但还是继续前进。你一路杀

将过来,慢慢有了起色,这就是值得骄傲的事情。让每个人都知道:今天的你比

昨天的你远为强大,而未来的你又强过今天的你。

    10、要一直抬起头,并且保持笑容。 ——生命的每一天都是人生道路上的一

页篇章。除非生命停止,否则永远都有机会。不要为过去哭泣,而是祈祷能跨过

昨日的那道坎。不要强颜欢笑去隐藏伤痛;要带着笑意去治愈伤口。不要老想着

人世间的哀伤愁苦;要想想那些依然围绕着你的诸般美好。

 



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